October 2010
6 posts
Thirty days of music: Day 20, a song you listen to... →
So obviously I love YouTube because I can get immediate access to just about song or video clip that I want, whether it’s supposed to be available for free or not. But I also love it because people…
Thirty days of music: Day 19, a song from my... →
I grew up listening to Michelle Shocked’s Arkansas Traveler on road trips with my mom. The album has stayed in my collection ever since. Doesn’t matter what mood I’m in — Shocked’s voice transports…
Thirty days of music: Day 18, a song you wish you... →
I want this woman to go platinum, because that would mean everyone got to hear her amazing sci-fi soul and revel in her style. Janelle Monae, “Many Moons.” Day 01: Your favorite song (Party…
Thirty days of music: Day 16 and 17 →
LOL late, I know, but PLANTS VS. ZOMBIES IS SO AWESOME. That’s what I was doing yesterday instead of posting my song. Day 16: A song that you used to love but now hate “Hate” might be a strong…
The portly is political →
Given the absolute clarity of fatshionista’s userinfo, and the typical blow-ups the comm has on a regular basis, I cannot imagine how anyone gets the impression that people do not call…
Thirty days of music: Day 15, a song that... →
Choosing this song seems hopelessly negative. It’s about a woman who insists that she is fundamentally damaged and no one should ever get close to her; of course, she also longs for tenderness and…
I am job →
As I mentioned in passing on one of my music meme posts last week, I got a job. The acquiring of this job was quite arduous. I first interviewed with the company back in June. We discussed a…
Thirty days of music: Day 14, a song that no one... →
I swear I’m going to post actual content at some point. I totally planned to write about my new job today, but I did so much thinking at work that my brain was completely nonfunctional by the time I…
September 2010
25 posts
Thirty days of music: Day 13, a song that is a... →
Dear feminism, I’m sorry. Love, t_t. Snoop Doggy Dogg, “Ain’t No Fun (If the Homies Can’t Have None).” Day 01: Your favorite song (Party Ben, “Hung up on Soul (Madonna vs. Death Cab for…
Thirty days of music: Day 12, a song from a band... →
I wasn’t sure if I’d go with today’s prompt or rebel in the name of positivity as I did on day 2. Bands that I hate? Nothing was springing to mind. Then I thought, “Okay, what is a band that will…
Thirty days of music: Day 11, a song from your... →
Insert the usual tearful caveats about the pain and torment of being forced at gunpoint to choose a “favorite band” here. Pearl Jam, “Corduroy.” Day 01: Your favorite song (Party Ben, “Hung…
Thirty days of music: Day 10, a song that makes... →
Today’s caveat: Honestly, no music makes me fall asleep. I can fall asleep to music, but usually it’s in spite of the music, not because of it. If I hear music I like, I’m going to pay attention to…
Thirty days of music: Day 09, a song you can dance... →
It’s been a while since I went out, but I’m not a bad salsa dancer. Celia Cruz, “Quimbara.” Day 01: Your favorite song (Party Ben, “Hung up on Soul (Madonna vs. Death Cab for Cutie)”) Day 02:
Thirty days of music: Day 08, a song you know all... →
I actually know all of the words to A LOT of songs, thanks to a formative experience in childhood. When I was 10, my mom brought me to a pub/restaurant sort of thing on karaoke night. The prospect of…
It gets better →
Your poor, poor flists! I just keep embedding videos like it’s going out of style. Sorry, y’all; at least this one’s for a good cause. Dan Savage, with whom I have a love-hate relationship, scored…
Thirty days of music: Day 07, a song that reminds... →
It’s time for some serious OONTS. As in OONTS OONTS OONTS OONTS. My best friend and I took a road trip from Southern California to New Orleans in the summer of 2001. We stopped in Lafayette, LA…
Thirty days of music: Day 06, a song that reminds... →
Today’s selection is particularly appropriate, since it’s about making money and I just got a job. (More on that later.) Day 06: A song that reminds you of somewhere I listened to this album a lot…
Really, Mad Men? →
You give us an episode that touches on racism in a somewhat interesting way, and then you have two white characters get mugged by a black dude so they can fall into each others’ arms for sexytimes?…
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Thirty days of music: Day 05, a song that reminds... →
Man, just about any song in my library would work for this one. Day 05: A song that reminds you of someone One of my boyfriends in San Francisco introduced me to this band, and their music will…
Thirty days of music: Day 04, a song that makes... →
Day 04: A song that makes you sad My life has been touched by alcoholism in so many ways. Both of my parents were in recovery throughout my childhood, and I’ve watched friends struggle with it,…
Thirty days of music: Day 03, A song that makes... →
And we’re back to meme conformity. Day 03: A song that makes you happy Mysteriously, some people don’t enjoy melodic bombast. I do. It doesn’t get any more overblown and gorgeous than this. In…
I fail, other people don't →
So this is what internalized ableism looks like, for the record. I was (and am) feeling frustration and despair about my ability to ever fulfill ordinary responsibilities and lead an independent…
I am not the next step in human evolution BECAUSE... →
_unsure found this posted on an article about people with ADD/ADHD: Some of the best programmers for computers, video games, web designers, and coders are self diagnosed or doctor…
Thirty days of music: Day 02, in which I rage... →
I am REBELLING against this music meme. Day 02 is supposed to be “Your least favorite song,” but why would I want to post about something I hate? I’m not going to inflict Crazytown or Soulja Boy or…
Thirty days of music: Day 01, my favorite song →
I’ve seen several people doing this, and I’m enjoying the heck out of it. Music’s a huge part of my life. I use it to regulate my mood and focus my mind. So, my turn! Day 01: Your favorite song Of…
If this is "civilized," fuck it, I'm going to... →
Guys, America is so post-racial. In fact, I think we must be post-post-racial now, because a noted author who has been lauded in progressive circles can say this with a straight face: I know—I…
Hot Tramp's Jealousy Megapost →
I find that I end up repeating myself a lot in online discussions about jealousy, so I’m going to collect my main points here for easy linking. Stuff I believe about jealousy:
Jealousy is…
August 2010
14 posts
You got me wonderin' why I ... →
As is the case for many chronically depressed people, I suspect, my libido acts as a fairly reliable barometer for my overall mood. The good news: It’s up! The bad news: I have no one to fuck. …
Polywhatnow? →
Conversations about polyamory often get bogged down in semantics. This is annoying but, I think, inevitable. Language grows to fit the society that speaks it, and our society has some very strong…
Things that suck, part 417,882 →
Being in love with someone, and knowing full well the two of you don’t work in a relationship. God damn it.
It's so sad that Judge Walker is gay ... →
… BECAUSE I CANNOT WOO HIM AND MAKE HIM LOVE ME AS I LOVE HIM. When Walker issued his ruling on Prop 8, he also issued a stay. Now he has lifted that stay — effective August 18. This gives the…
Closing thought for an exciting day →
Sections of the Prop 8 ruling that deserve to be... →
Okay, the No on 8 campaign was TERRIBLY run, but the Yes on 8 trial may have been EVEN WORSE. They pulled a bunch of witnesses because those witnesses were supposedly afraid for their safety (even…
Sections of the Prop 8 ruling that deserve to be... →
Something I didn’t see coming in the trial: The plaintiffs argued that limiting marriage to male-female unions is rooted in outdated notions of gender, and now that men and women are (allegedly)…
Sections of the Prop 8 ruling that deserve to be... →
The whole ruling is here. As I read it today, I’m going to pull out the bits that I think are most interesting and important. On the Prop 8 proponents’ arguments, in the election and in the trial:
Sections of the Prop 8 ruling that deserve to be... →
I’m on the findings of fact now. The last two are long but include a lot of stomach-turning stuff about the rhetoric of the Yes on 8 campaign and the mindset of Yes on 8 supporters. 79. The…
Sections of the Prop 8 ruling that deserve to be... →
The bottom line: PROPOSITION 8 IS UNCONSTITUTIONAL BECAUSE IT DENIES PLAINTIFFS A FUNDAMENTAL RIGHT WITHOUT A LEGITIMATE (MUCH LESS COMPELLING) REASON Because plaintiffs seek to exercise their…
Sections of the Prop 8 ruling that deserve to be... →
In my opinion, this is what it really comes down to: Plaintiffs presented eight lay witnesses, including the four plaintiffs, and nine expert witnesses. Proponents’ evidentiary presentation was…
Sections of the Prop 8 ruling that deserve to be... →
I want to start a fan club for all of the awesome witnesses for the plaintiffs: Historian Nancy Cott testified about the public institution of marriage and the state’s interest in recognizing and…
Sections of the Prop 8 ruling that deserve to be... →
A nice paragraph on the sticky issue of overturning something approved by the voters: [T]he evidence presented at trial fatally undermines the premises underlying proponents’ proffered rationales…
Chemical overload →
Note to self: Possibly, it was a less-than-stellar idea to double your dose of Zoloft and start taking Adderall on the same day. My neurotransmitters asplode. On the plus side, it was a GREAT way…
July 2010
3 posts
Sketchy →
So my brain isn’t very good at prose right now. I decided to take out my old sketch pad and pencils and see if anything decent would come out. I am not unhappy with the results:
Your headers are the scene of the crime →
Dear Inception fandom: Welcome! You have kick-ass source material, hot actors, and an active high-quality kink meme that’s jump-starting things with style. So awesome! There’s just one thing I…
How about "no," Blizzard →
A few months ago, we had a conversation in fandom about the value of pseudonymity — that is, the legitimate reasons people may have for preferring to hide their legal name in online interactions….
June 2010
8 posts
I could teach a writing-avoidance class →
I’m so good at procrastinating, you guys. Today, faced with the prospect of actually getting down and dirty and writing the porn bit of my fic, I was suddenly gripped by the overwhelming need to make…
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